Thank you, dear.

Everyone is sensitive to different things. I am sensitive to certain things as well.

For example,
I am very sensitive to negative comments on things I have worked hard for, especially if the comment came from persons very close to me.

When I work hard for my wife, the least I can expect is a 'Thank you, dear' from her. But sometimes, I get rejections from her.She said to me the other day "Maybe you don't have to send me back from work next time since ... (whole list of reasons)". It would be nice to receive praises for things you do for others, but this should not apply to a relation ship between you and your spouse as whatever you do for her should rightfully be in the spirit of a long term commitment. So, saying "Thank you, dear" to her everytime she does the laundry is, in my opinion, not in the spirit of long-term commitment. Of course, that does not stop you from saying "Thank you, dearest" to her every now and then.

I often feel rejected and dejected whenever my wife tries to 'find excuses for me' to avoid doing something for her. Imagine, you want to do something for her with the objective of pleasing her. But she tells you that you that don't have to do this next time. No appreciation, just rejection.

That kind of thing hurts me.

I believe in communication. I tell her how I feel. Hopefully it will correct both our attitudes for the better over time.

Have a good day !